Is Monday morning breakfast the right time to talk about death? There is no right time. But there is a time in which such conversations simply occur. Little by little chopping an egg and flying with lego straigtasparnis, and I sit in silence and memories. – Mommy, are you sad? – Oak asks.
– yes, love. Today is Andrew’s birthday (Andrew is my dead brother). I miss him, and that’s why it’s sad. – I’m upset and crying. The helicopter continues to fly, and we talk about how Andrew died, what color his motorcycle and outfit were, and the helmet, how the funeral took place, whether he was buried underground or burned, where Andrew lived and so on. That’s what’s interesting for Oak. Ainiuk silently watches our conversation, listens. Sometimes when you hear the word “motorcycle”. Conversations about death, the loss that is important to us, the feelings that arise from experiencing grief can happen just like this. Without any special preparation. Because there are no words to speak for. There is no suitable age for this, because everyone, even the smallest, must know that death is part of life. We will not protect our children from it, so let us not protect ourselves from conversations about the pain of losing a loved one, about fear of being lost, about life after loss. Speaking out is not easy. But hiding under the table – even more difficult. After all, those “difficult” topics don’t go away. And we have to “put” them on the table. The only way to openness is to accept ourselves – feeling vulnerable, sensitive, upset, sad, wee-faced and not afraid to show it to our children. Because that’s how they learn to feel and accept their feelings. Learns to be in a life where there are deaths, bereavement, pain, grief and knowing that everything passes. #pokalbiaisuvaikais #pokalbiai #conversationswithkids #pokalbiaiapiemirti #mamystė #sunkuspokalbiai #emocijos #jausmai #netektys #mirtis #emotionalhealth #loss #hardconversations #connection #lifegoeson #lifeafterloss #feelings #jausmai #viskaspraeina #joinoakcrew #howtotalkaboutdeath #mondaybreakfast #breakfastconversations #vulnerability #acceptyouremotions #seima #šeima #familybreakfast
Is Monday morning breakfast the right time to talk about death?
