“I don’t have patience anymore” – how many times a day do you think this idea in your head? And how much during quarantine, when the ways to respite and ask for help have decreased?

Losing patience is human. Our patience is constantly “trying” others. Those other children, loved ones, parents closest to us. We think they’re how powerful al-capones decide to break our cup of patience and push the comb under the fingernail. Clog your ears when please clean up toys, leave socks on the couch, insist on tasteing baked bacon and not hear “thank you, do not want”. Then we got angry and exploded because they crossed our red line. For which we felt helpless, lost control, did not hear. But we exploded not because they crossed, they brought out patience. We exploded because we felt little and couldn’t do anything in that hot situation. Those others had important issues for them. Maybe it was more fun for them to play than to handle it, maybe socks on the couch don’t stick to them at all, maybe feeding them bacon means worrying about them. They didn’t bring us out, and we got out of patience.

Patience to have ALWAYS and EVERYWHERE is harmful to our emotional and physical health. Imagine you’re going to go to the bathroom. You can wait a few minutes, but a few hours will end in wet pants. Or you slept poorly, and the little ones kept “Mom, Aunt, play!” and there will come the moment when you scream – “leave me alone!”. Just tired…

How to develop patience? I really do not know the miraculous programme (I myself prefer it) and I am thinking, need to strengthen patience – the ability to suffer? Maybe it’s better to see situations that keep punching fuses? Why don’t you put the steps that lead not toward the red line? Maybe learn other ways to “get out of patience” – not screaming, blaming others or yourself?
When am I more vulnerable? Evening? Tired? Didn’t have time for yourself? When I see that I’m not responding?

If I get out of my patience myself, I can go 🙂 Who would help? Inhale, exhale. To say what we want, with a funny voice (laughter cools perfectly). Allow yourself to be helpless and out of control (as a result, we are neither smaller nor larger, only emotionally healthier). Don’t expect everyone to listen to us and fulfill all our wishes. That’s not even the fairy tales ❤️

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