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Do you have your safe place at home?

The place, where you can drink a cup of coffee at early morning, where you can cool down when anger or anxiety is boiling inside, spend some time when you feel helpless during kids’ fights or dinosaurs’’ attacks, where you can step back in hot situations, where you can fill yourself with patience, calmness and smile. The place, where you can sit and tell to others loudly: “I am in my safe place now. Please, leave me alone for a while”.

If not, create one. But remember, that safe places are like magnets, that attract others 😂❤️

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– Mommy, your short hair, – Oak notices my head when I get my head.

– yes, baby. But once upon a time they were long. Even to the butt.

– To the butt? So you were a carbass barabas and scared your friends? – surprised.

– No, I wasn’t as scary as a carbass barabas.

I’m thinking. Actually, I don’t know. Maybe there were moments when I scared or disappointed someone, or I was upset or angry. But I know there were moments when I cheered, hugged and comforted, encouraged.

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In first group therapy session online with cancer patients I asked to show one thing, which reveals how each is feeling today. One woman, who now is on chemotherapy, showed a small branch of cherry with little buds on it. Looking forward to expand and bloom. She said that it’s about hope, that everything will be OK again and she will bloom as cherry bud one day. We decided to check each session how it’s changing…and step by step to nurture that hope inside…

When two holidays meet in one day. But both say, “Run! Green fields and meadows! Be free! Get out of stagnation and cold! Let sunlight defeat! Let spring wake up inside!”

Nu can’t listen.

So if anyone’s sitting in a snowy semi and it’s getting too cold, fading and sad, remember that the snow is going to fall, but… why wait? It is possible to raise a dubce yourself and go to spring, wind the winter from your inside and create another beautiful day of your life – a colorful, tasty, cozy ❤️

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The beauty of floating clouds, favorite evening tea, the power for your daughter to wesse digging, walking in the forest listening to bird singing, sea waves spooping barefoot feet, hugging with a beloved, waking spring scent… The list of those little everyday wonders is endless and endless… In conversations with patients affected by oncological diseases, these daily miracles are reflected in the brightest colors in the face of limitations, disability, pain, suffering. Certainly not everyone is impressed. Only those who do not die while still living, who cherish the time they have, who find because they are looking for… In the current restrictions, we are also looking, sometimes we get tired of looking for it, we miss lost things, but we are looking for… Endlessly, patiently and waiting… We’re waiting for that refreshing smell of waking spring to bite your nose…

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Today, February 4th is World Day against Cancer. In that word "fight" so much fits. For those who hear the diagnosis of this disease, those who are nearby, those who care and heal. Fighting for life, health, quality of life, looking into the eyes of a loved one for several days or months, opportunities to see your child going to first grade, dreams still have a lot to do, travel, experience, taste life.

It was exactly 10 years in the summer when I stepped into this fight. My struggle for speaking in a difficult time, for openness, for sensitivity, for accepting my own vulnerability, temporaryity, mortality, for support, for allowing myself to feel. All this not only in relation to patients, their relatives, colleagues, but also inside. Because we all sit in the same boat of life – which flies from birth to death.

Sitting by the sea, I wrote the idea for the new magazine Pink Life, which is dedicated to women affected by oncological diseases, their loved ones. I share that article inspired by the sea swell. Maybe he'll "read" and nothing about cancer for people who don't want to hear, maybe some thoughts will stick to everyday life in this pandemic.

p.s. and the magazine itself can still be found in treatment facilities 😉
p.s. for those who want to read in pdf format, post in a personal message, I will send 😉

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In the bedroom we have a framed photo on the chest of drawers. Oak at that time another “intervened” among us, the other still growing in the abdomen. But now they both say very clearly, show with a finger, shouts, interfere with the conversations that we have not yet had before, and in the hugs, too, suddenly something appears between the legs.

Looking at that picture, I keep thinking where is our two time? How do we find him? In the evening, when we break up with the kids, someone wakes up in the middle of the night, wakes another one, but the other one doesn’t tear his eyes off or thinks it’s some kind of dream. In the current time, when there is no way to ask for help, that “two” longing is even bigger and more painful.

Then we try to catch the “two” in the smallest moments: look at each other with eye-catching, “what did they think again?!”, hug the stove with the words “how do I love you”, let’s pamper each other with the food we make, make coffee for each other, sometimes what kind of cremiss is slandering dance or the English alphabet singing impatiently… Sometimes, and yes, sometimes when we don’t think about another movie… (but that was a long time ago)… The “two of you” were some day at the beginning of the new year when we sat down and wrote dreams, goals, priorities for this year. Now that billed leaf hangs between the toilet and the dark door of the room. Very clearly visible instead. I think the common goal in this time would be that the “two” metaphorically speaking would not be lowered into a sewer well or closed in a dark room between the grits. For the “two” to get the time to ask for help … and the gaze will loosen, hands capable of hugging without “intervening”.

And what’s your “two” at the moment?

Photo @joanaburn

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You’re halfway through the day- you haven’t been in the shower yet? You look in the mirror at 16.00, and from him you look at you tangled goddess with pajamas? It’s okay. You’re beautiful. Both tangled, and with pajamas, and a little smelly. This is sometimes (or most often) a mammoth routine. Because it’s not about herself, it’s about others.
But wake up on this day in a different way and surprise: first of all, yourself, your beans/beans, your beloved husband. So that if you look in the mirror or in your loved ones, you can wink and murmur: Ū-lia-lia!!! (it’s now a favorite phrase of Ainiuk, but it’s still coming down to the most popular – sushi). Shine today so that everyone who hangs their jaws today is a sleammer from the beauty of mom (yes, yours). Or from a different-looking and fragrant mother. And then, gin, half outside to the gosses, gin quarantine is still without end, gin, that in the face of lack of sleep really no one even promises to hide, gin, that crumbs on the ground starve their feet… The main thing is that everyone at home suddenly felt some kind of celebration, felt somehow more special than usual and just played a little with everyday life.

Shine bright like MOM!

p.s. I’ve always been surrounded by Oak’s words – “Mommy, how beautiful you are” or maybe a more admirable, surprised look when I’m in the middle of a simple day 🙂 Or Ainiuko’s researching porous, which is trying to figure out how these mom’s painted eyelashes are going to wander around here.

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In the evening, when my husband and I lost hope that someone would hear us on the issues of brushing our teeth, dragging our pajamas and going to bed, we just started singing the English alphabet together, lying down on the bed 😂 Kikenom without stopping and feeling that the duo, the team, that we really are not alone, and we are together in this unheard of 🙂 And then, of course, those who didn’t hear joined in to listen to what’s going on here, bi, si, di, i, ef, ji… The most interesting 😂

And a picture of that young man who wants to use a cochrice for the wrong purpose, but it’s really better to sing 😂

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