One of the most important things I want to teach them is courage.

Courage to feel and talk about feelings.
Courage to make mistakes and recognize them.
Courage to be different and unique.
Courage to play life even in the most difficult circumstances.
Courage to want more than you think you can.

#courage #couragetobeyou #feelings #momof2 #momof2boys #motherhood #corevalues #familygoals #lockdown #superheroes #littlesuperhero #familyquarantine #flybabyfly #šeima #mamystė #vaikai #drasa #butisavimi #joinaokcrew

When it’s soooo COLD (only -19) outside, you must hug STRONGLY ❤️

#brothers #hugs #winter #coldoutside❄️ #winterwonderland #saturdayfun #familymoments #lockdown #šeima #karantinas

Ainis on snowboard! – you can see on instagram.

Our older son Ąžuolas (in english – Oak) always wants to compete with others: younger brother, friends, spider man, basketball team Žalgiris, Blippi and, off course, father.

– Daddy, when will I ride a bike faster than you?
– I don’t know, son, maybe when you will be able to ride a bigger bike with bigger wheels…when you will grow up..
– When will it be? – he still wants to know exact date!
– Maybe when you will be 14-16 years old..

But today I started to feel, that in some things they might be just better already now! When I saw my 1,5 years old son going with snowboard, I thought – he is already snowboarding better than I do! 🤘🤘🤘

Have you ever noticed anything, where your kids are better than you? 😂

This morning, I received an e-mail announcing that I would go to Japan in the spring to read the report. Virtual 😂😍

And I wondered what’s going on in that word for freedom today.

✅Freece to feel gratitude and respect for those who then, while I was still little, sought those freedoms in a united, courageous and determined manner.

✅Freedom to grow two small people, nurturing in them those values that are important to me – compassion for myself and another, love for family, courage to be yourself, courage to seek what is important, to love not things, but to experience, to see beauty in people, to hear and rely on themselves, to respect stories – to themselves, to be loved, to strangers.

✅Freeto seek and share knowledge, experience.

✅Freedom to believe in what is close, in its own right.

✅Freedom to feel what feels and hide it.

✅Free to travel and get to know the expanses of the outer and inner world.

✅Free to taste the tastes of the world without leaving home.

✅Freedom to raise the slagbaum and let Barbor in with the food he brought, not to wait in line for the only sausage.

✅Free to hug the nearby.

✅Freedent to speak his own language.

✅Freedom to be proud of her country and its people.

✅Freedom not to know, get lost, to make mistakes and try again.

✅Freedom to patiently and courageously protect, rethink, refuse some, create new ones.

In the photo: today’s interpretation of our freedom with children. Small feet let symbolize the move – bold, dashing, colorful, enjoying that move, but at the same time, stop and pause, turn back, look back, how far went, what is learned, what has been learned.

#laisvė #freedom #sausio13 #laisvei30 #lietuva #lithuania #ourfreedom #remember #family #šeima

Action in the bedroom at 00:30 I sleep with a little one who starts to distract, wake up and look for a mom. And Mom somewhere else: maybe sitting in her work, maybe sleeping brother, or maybe sleeping with a big one..

in any way, I try to hiss, shout and otherwise cause “white noise” to just keep the child awake and continue to dive into dreams.

It’s like it’s going to work! AUREKA! I’m turning on my side and suddenly I see two eyes in the dark 👀 looking at me! The heart ❤️ in heels, the whole body freezes and already wants to release fists to work!

– baby, let’s go on a date! – quietly hears from a woman kneeling at the bed.
– You’re kidding?!?

P.s. Don’t forget to surprise your second halves with dates, no matter when they are: in the middle of the night or in the morning, in the middle of the day, just as the sun is in the sun!

In the photo, my conc. with whom I stayed faithfully to continue to sleep, and she went further into her work.. ❤️

#fatherandson #sleep #dreams #fatheroftwo #night #miegas #pasimatymas #lockdown #baltastriukšmas #joinoakcrew

Action on the site at 1:30 a.m. I listen to the headphones for my PhD study participants interview. Yes, a very "productive" time ☺️ Suddenly a little night is poking out of the darkness.

– Oak, where are you walking? – I'm quietly asking.
– I was looking for you, Mommy… – he replies.

I'm going to bed, I'm lying down next to you.

– Sleep peacefully, I give you a kiss and he closes his eyes.

A few minutes later, he opens his eyes and asks:

– When are we going?
– Where?
– When are we going on a date? – worried about asking.
– The day, baby. Sleep peacefully, I'm giving you a kiss again.

The light of the LED candle shows me how he smiles while he sleeps. Again. Then the voice laughs briefly.

I hope he's dreaming of our date 😉 he's not on the ocean shore… I'm thinking to myself lying next to it: there's a virus around, people are fighting for their lives – their own or a stranger, someone is looking for ways to get ahead in the graft queue, someone from longing rubs scratched boundaries of municipalities or countries, and for me, the most important things happen here at 1.30 am, in that sleeping smile. Which I've been waiting so long… ❤️

p.s. And are you traveling with your toddlers (large or small) to date during quarantine?

p.s. We're going on a date tomorrow pirated 😉

#mamystė #meilė #pasimatymas #pasimatymassumama #vandenynoilgesys #oceanview #datewithyou #date #oakcrew #karantinas #lockdown #lockdown2021 #quarantine #momof2 #motherhood #specialmoments

– Mommy, I drew a flower for you, says Oak with a loving voice.
– What kind of flower is that? – I’m coming to see you.
– This is a sosnovsky rattle! – delivers with pride.

It’s a cold week, let love and laughter not only warm, but also burn your hearts, relationships and homes 😂❤️

#meilė #vaikųmeilė #pokalbiai #karantinas #šeima #juokas #santykiai #lockdown #lockdown2021 #familyquarantine #quarantinelife #oakcrew #kidslove #kidswisdom

“I don’t have patience anymore” – how many times a day do you think this idea in your head? And how much during quarantine, when the ways to respite and ask for help have decreased?

Losing patience is human. Our patience is constantly “trying” others. Those other children, loved ones, parents closest to us. We think they’re how powerful al-capones decide to break our cup of patience and push the comb under the fingernail. Clog your ears when please clean up toys, leave socks on the couch, insist on tasteing baked bacon and not hear “thank you, do not want”. Then we got angry and exploded because they crossed our red line. For which we felt helpless, lost control, did not hear. But we exploded not because they crossed, they brought out patience. We exploded because we felt little and couldn’t do anything in that hot situation. Those others had important issues for them. Maybe it was more fun for them to play than to handle it, maybe socks on the couch don’t stick to them at all, maybe feeding them bacon means worrying about them. They didn’t bring us out, and we got out of patience.

Patience to have ALWAYS and EVERYWHERE is harmful to our emotional and physical health. Imagine you’re going to go to the bathroom. You can wait a few minutes, but a few hours will end in wet pants. Or you slept poorly, and the little ones kept “Mom, Aunt, play!” and there will come the moment when you scream – “leave me alone!”. Just tired…

How to develop patience? I really do not know the miraculous programme (I myself prefer it) and I am thinking, need to strengthen patience – the ability to suffer? Maybe it’s better to see situations that keep punching fuses? Why don’t you put the steps that lead not toward the red line? Maybe learn other ways to “get out of patience” – not screaming, blaming others or yourself?
When am I more vulnerable? Evening? Tired? Didn’t have time for yourself? When I see that I’m not responding?

If I get out of my patience myself, I can go 🙂 Who would help? Inhale, exhale. To say what we want, with a funny voice (laughter cools perfectly). Allow yourself to be helpless and out of control (as a result, we are neither smaller nor larger, only emotionally healthier). Don’t expect everyone to listen to us and fulfill all our wishes. That’s not even the fairy tales ❤️

#kantrybė #patience #parenthood #motherhood #lockdown2021 #lockdown #quarantine #familyquarantine #šeima #mamystė #motinystė #tėvystė #santykiai #relationshipgoals #relationship #emotions #emotionalhealth #karantinas #emocinesveikata #psichologija #oakcrew

“Mommy, and when you drink buttermilk, you start turning?” asks Oak at breakfast.

Like me, those childish thinking and the world’s cognitive vicars ❤️

And the photo @joanaburn – from the time we turned three 😉

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